There is ongoing dialogue regarding the relative efficacy of academic versus more experiential approaches to developing the creative process. And I would like to go on record as one who is bursting with gratitude for alternative methods of learning. I learned Rebalancing bodywork with my entire body – our daily practice included both giving and receiving the treatment session of the day, which enabled us to learn the work from the inside out.
And this is also how I have learned to write. Learning by doing. But I think it’s a rare individual who can learn without being taught. It’s the how of the teaching which makes all the difference. A teaching method which encourages rather than criticizes is the one that has kept me writing.
A few years ago I listened to someone who was well-educated in literary theory and criticism, but I found that when I attempted to write from that perspective I shut right down. It was too daunting and my writing was stiff and forced. My chosen teachers have been those who encouraged, reported back to me what was strong; what worked in my pieces. The argument of my learned friend was that the writing then becomes a service only to the ego; one searches for praise and gratification. I won’t argue that this is entirely false. Of course, our little egos want to feel we’ve done something brilliant! But the larger service is that pointing out what works helps one’s shaky little ego believe that it can in fact write something worthwhile; something meaningful, and it keeps one writing.
I’m writing this post because last weekend I participated in a “Freefall” retreat with Barbara Turner-Vesselago and experienced an epiphany. As I wrote those three intense mornings I was aware of employing myriad elements of craft as I also allowed myself to follow the energy into the unexpected. It was at the same time rooted and transcendent. Each morning I wrote for four hours, after which I had to go outside, run, walk, swim in order to return to “normal”. I had ‘nailed’ the scenes in ways I had never experienced. I was elated and stayed high for days afterward. It’s as if I’ve broken through a membrane I didn’t even know existed.
I am so grateful to my teachers and mentors: Sue Reynolds, Barbara Turner-Vesselago, Pat Schneider, Donna Morrissey, and to Ruth Walker and Sherry Coman who have all in their unique ways encouraged, guided, supported, and never ever criticized.
Recently I hosted a writing retreat at my beautiful home by the river. There were fourteen writers and lovers of writing led in this encouraging and supportive way by the gracious Sue Reynolds. At the end of the three days I put together a poem culled from phrases and words that had stayed with me from the pens of these brave people. It is, in a way, a found poem. We went around the circle reading a few lines each, and discovered that our collective voice was a beautiful thing to hear.
Here it is:
This is how it happens – an evening, the day after and words linger in the air long after they’re spoken, settle in the ears, drift into the heart, bearing with them the speaker, the writer, the ‘narrator’
Words such as:
Beyond thinking, attaching words to flyaway thoughts,
Wanting to wail but weighted down
Green seeping then floating, gold light and rainbows,
Crow mother help me, jagged edges of broken shell, zig within the zag
A pink hat with a tractor logo, the sound of farts and car tires
Sand in patches the shapes of animals
Sun pulling diamonds from rock
Where the waves fit
And canoeing down Main Street
Unconditional love wrapped in 8 pounds of flesh
Don’t know whether to fly or fall,
Write like me, accept my voice
And flags wave cheering
We hear the word constellate again and picture words like stars
The rhyme of chapter and rapture and
having the courage to break my own rule
playing my hand
last card
You are not alone, you are YOU
A shadow searching for a body
A man with one foot on rock, the other steadying the rocking boat
And zombies who hate poems
The congregation of my laughter –
What are you asking me?
Sunflower will you kiss me
Just once today
The universe between my thighs
I am you
Siphon your laughter
Fuels my faith
I cannot travel with you
Let me leave something beautiful in this world
Those eyelashes, their dark fringe
And
Sitting someplace quiet and quiet myself
White flash of a bird’s wing uplifted and illuminated
Hostas become garden umbrellas
For the fairies
How could I not know their names?
Arms flung wide to catch me
The current underneath and punk trout
A house that sighed
A finger resting in a curled fist
Golf channel 416
Dick’s sporting goods
Humblest hacker
The swing that is YOUR sacred swing
This is YOU they tinker with
Smart girls are worth waiting for
Soft ones that smell good
They should have never met,
That turtle and gazelle
Tapping around the edges
An ending in both hands
Held long enough to feel its fragile bones cracking
Reeds and rushes woven baskets that sprouted laughter
As if there is a right time to step into your time
Household appliances shouldn’t be personal gifts
The green taste of watercress
A drunken mapmaker
The relief that the address is the wrong address
No recuperation
Her cold hand that still warms my heart
Light falling through the window
Cheek to bark
Wind cheering in the ears
A pen that leaked ink, an electric force
Sweet sweet abyss
Puberty in search of me
Imprinting be damned
Tiny coffins gladiator style from ankles to knees
A boran shaking Celtic bones
Earnest ants carrying story
Horses living on the sixth floor
Suckling mother wolf
Liquid heroin
Red Rose figurines, Noah’s ark animals on shelves and counters,
A cat found under a bag of apples
Books bursting through an oven door
How a glass holds light
Being held in her gray gaze
Held is just a word.
Word flash to blank mind
Pen poised I wait and wait and wait
Did I once hold your focus?
Tethered to pink granite
A pebble in the shoe
A pile of shoes keeping the door from crashing,
The bitch-face’s purring car
The ex-bastard’s eyes
And the first time he doesn’t argue
The smell of dry-roasted cumin
A patina formed from 20 years of living
A single claw in an ear
Without drawing blood
A not fat cat
Who needs reassurance
Frantic jazz
An acrobat about to perform
Desert sun white light of the afterlife the eye of god
Mitosis
One body dividing into two
A panel made soft by eggplants
Sexy vegetables knowing no pain
A river that runs under everything,
Connecting
D A N G E R
A stone fence like stitching
A streak of red in dark hair
A self-professed bi sexual
Me walking toward you
The tinkling snore of a muse
A small man in a wool cap singing in gaelic
Fiddle music over Parliament street
Never feel that tickle in my heart
Or the giggle in my throat
Believing the heart would get him
And not the cancer
A hand on cold back, a breath, gratitude
The rhymes that rhyme themselves
A time out of time
With a dying woman
Hotwheels on white sand icing
A lone birdie in the cut down tree
Wind chimes and saxophone a golden fence
Violets
Violence
And that damn pony
At the beginning of the journey
The river that flows below its still surface
Sex is not the objective
Having fun is sexy
That’s how it happens –
You show up, take up your pens and begin…
Those are the words
And these are the hearts
That birthed those words
And to these hearts who’ve shared my home, my river
My Sebright Sebright where writers write
I bow
Thank you thank you
Thank you
by: Sue Reynolds, John Oelrichs, Terry Richards, Margaret Hefferman, Gail Cunningham, Esther Griffin, Theresa Dekker, Stephanie Curry, Clare Bolton, Janis McCallen, Suzanne Robinson, Sharon Arnaud, James Dewar
Lovely, lovely, Deepam. Some gems there. Collective voice is powerful. And you had fun, too. Retreats are opportunities to learn and bond with like-minded people striving to improve … amazing results.
Thanks, Mary. The poem is just a sampling of the wonderful work that the group did, many of whom wouldn’t even call themselves writers. For me, it’s testimony to the focus of the facilitation – what is asked for in feedback is always, what is strong and what stayed with you? The pens don’t hesitate for long!
Great retreat…am still enjoying the time we spent together.